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Corpsman_Billy
10-19-2008, 17:25
Hey everybody, I was put in a situation today where, I'm not really sure what I should do.

Right now, I am a busser at a restaurant and another kid I work with also happens to be in the DEP through another station and he has a contract for CTI. While I can't really say he is a friend since we never hang out outside of work, when we are working together we get along great as he is a hard worker and we like to randomly drill each other on things like when we walk past each other one of us calls out a general order number and the other person recites it.

He tells me all of the time he is going to quit soon because he has several thousand dollars saved up in the bank and can easily ride off of it until he ships out.

Well, earlier I was emptying a garbage and I looked up and there was a table that I had cleaned not that long before with a $2 tip on it. (You already know where this is going) and he walks up to it and takes the $2 and puts it into his pocket and walks off.

Now every once in a great while, when a waiter is leaving they will tell a busser to go grab a tip off of a table and keep it (for the busser's tip as they are tipped by the waiters). But about 10 seconds later the waiter walks over to it and goes "Where did my tip go? It was here just a second ago?" And he starts looking around. D'OH!

So I didn't say anything and I finish loading all of my garbages into the cart and go to the kid and tell him I needed help unloading it (which I did) and then I was like "Look man, I seen you steal that tip"

And then he did what I was sure he would do "Oh, ***** told me I could have it and walked off" Which of course wasn't true as I watched the guy stand there and look for it. So he went and gave the tip to the server and gave him some bullshit excuse.

But now I'm not really sure what to do. I've worked with this kid for almost 2 years ago and he is very intelligent and I generally thought he was a good kid, I never thought I would see him do that. Further more, I have seen a lot of drug addicts take tips off of the table to feed their drug habits, but never someone who has SEVERAL GRAND in the bank and no bills to pay. The fact that he is going to be a CTI with top secret security clearance handling that kind of information, and is willing to steal $2 off of a table even when he doesn't need it kind of scares me, and further more I don't want thieves in my beloved Navy!

And so now I feel like I should say SOMETHING to SOMEONE, but I don't really know who other than my recruiter. But even then I don't have any physical proof and then it becomes a his word vs. mine kind of thing. So really the only thing I could really accomplish is raise a few moral doubts about him. I'm also worried that if I tell someone he will just make something up about me for turning him in. THEN you would have two guys pointing the finger at each other yet I have done nothing wrong and he has.

So should I just let this go or what? :swn:

DocJimbo
10-20-2008, 02:17
Hey man, I use to work at Best Buy and Circuit City and they both asked us in interviews what would you do if you saw someone stealing/demoralizing property??

Now by law...well in california...you should tell someone that is way higher than you. The manager/s wouldn't do anything to you just ask you are you sure? Of course you can't prove it unless you are video taping him lol BUT if they fired him your name would never come up in the conversation for anonymous reasons

Your best bet since you are a well rounded fella would be to tell a manager to keep an eye on him.

Remember to be HONEST, obviously he isn't.

Are you being a rat? Hell no, if you love where you work you don't want someone ruining it....regardless if you hate where you work...they are paying you for your services, to backstab them they have every right to get rid of you...remember you signed a contract.

If i were you I would tell a manager, professionally...

"Be like hey Bob can I talk to you it is very important."
he will of course make time to have a chat with you.
and as professionally and mercifully as you can tell him your situation, try not to make it sound like it is affecting you personally besides emotionally on moral crossroads.

If your management is good, they will take care of the problem and hopefully your friend just gets a warning....doubtful, but hopefully he just gets that.

Corpsman_Billy
10-20-2008, 03:40
Yeah, I don't want to be making a big deal over $2. But it really isn't the monetary value. If he is willing to steal in a room full of people in plain site that makes me really wonder what he would do if it was something bigger and with less people around.

I don't want to be a rat or tattle-tell but for someone who can't perform a job honestly at a restaurant what will happen when his job involves our national security?

DocJimbo
10-20-2008, 04:51
I will tell you this much...

Well if i were you since you both share the same job...i would report this to management.

What if in a week you are under supervision because he doesn't want to take a fall? He blames it on you.

I mean if you saw one of your fellow HM's taking med's or taking cash from people what would you do?

What if he was a lower rank than you? Or hell a higher rank?

Moral obligation, just do the right thing for the right reason.

Wild.Irish.Rose
10-22-2008, 23:47
What really gets me is that the guy took TWO DOLLARS! What's he going to do with two dollars that don't rightfully belong to him? It really makes me wonder what he would want with a lame two bucks.