I am making this post on behalf of my spouse, actually. I am currently training to get an enlistment contract for HM and she had a couple questions about family life for us in the military at our age (35).
Her biggest question is that she is a little worried about being able to relate to other spouses on the enlisted side. She is concerned about this mainly because of our age difference, but also our place in life now. Younger spouses, don’t take offense to this. With both of us being 35 years old, her being professionally established in an established career, and already having two children, she’s wondering how she would relate to the majority of spouses who will be much, much, younger than us, at a different maturity level, and point in their lives. Definitely not at all saying older is better. Just that it is different. And, with me being an HM, she’s going to want that spousal camaraderie and community. She is not from a military family and has never been exposed to it. So, everything is going to be new to her.
I'm not concerned about how I will relate to the other HMs and military life. I'm prior Service and Army Infantry, we'll have the job in common, and know our place in the rank structure. But, how will the military life be for my wife being older than a majority of the other spouses at my same paygrade? I'll be going in as an E-3.
If anyone would like to weigh in on this, spouses and Navy HMs, and Marines, please go ahead. Thanks!